How to communicate without invalidating
It is as if we were standing in the other persons shoes, seeing through his/her eyes and listening through the person's ears.
Our own viewpoint may be different and we may not necessarily agree with the person, but as we listen, we understand from the other's perspective.
Having your feelings diminished, ignored, or rejected is a painful experience for all of us – but even more so if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or survivor of abuse or other trauma.
It’s important to have a sense of belonging and to be a part of a group -- a family or community.
When we do, we compromise pieces of who we are in order to fit in and let others determine our self-worth. Emotions serve an important purpose and shouldn’t be ignored.
For example, feeling angry, afraid, or sad tells you that something’s wrong.
Effective communication exists between two people when the receiver interprets and understands the senders message in the same way the sender intended it.This helps to bring things into the open where they can be more readily resolved.Usually it is important to paraphrase and use your own words in verbalizing your understanding of the message.Note the different requirements in the following situations: If we dont address the appropriate elements we will not be very effective, and can actually make the situation worse.For example: If your wife is telling you about her hurt feelings and you focus on the facts of the situation and dont acknowledge her feelings, she will likely become even more upset.