Male victims of dating violence
Many local programs and state coalitions can also help male victims.
Also, there are a few national organizations that were established to help men - see our National Organizations for Male Victims page.
Although they make up a smaller percentage of callers to the Hotline, there are likely many more men who do not report or seek help for their abuse, for a variety of reasons: Men are socialized not to express their feelings or see themselves as victims.
Our culture still clings to narrow definitions of gender (although there are signs that this is slowly shifting).
From a young age, men are socialized to avoid appearing “weak,” “afraid,” and “hurt.” The result is that men may find it difficult to express emotions or ask for help.
This often acts as a barrier to male victims reporting abuse.
If you are a male victim of domestic violence or sexual assault, you should know that you are not alone.
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 4 men will experience some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. No one should have to be afraid or feel unsafe in his or her relationship.
Regardless of gender, services at The Office for Violence Prevention and Victim Assistance are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
However, we understand that for a male victim, those statistics are irrelevant and the need for assistance and support is just as important.
Certain gender stereotypes and social factors can make it difficult for male victims of abuse to come forward.
Pervading beliefs or stereotypes about men being abusers, women being victims.
The majority of domestic violence stories covered by the media are about male perpetrators and female victims who are typically in heterosexual relationships.